Enough Already about Breastfeeding

If you're an expecting mom, a new mom, or a veteran mom, you don't need me to tell you that there is an incredible amount of pressure and guilt associated with breastfeeding today. 

How hard to try and make it work, how much to try, how often to do it, how long to do it? It's unhealthy and it's unfair, and as mothers and caretakers of young children, it's about time WE take a stand against anyone or any group that feels they can make better decisions for our children than we can.


Three words: Fed Is Best.

Now let me preface this by saying that I breastfed both of my children for a year. But it was not because I was more determined, I worked harder, I was more dedicated or I am a better mom.

It was because I am lucky and I am privileged. 

You see for me, breastfeeding was a choice I was able to make. Both of my kids were able to latch relatively easily (in hindsight of course, my poor cracked nipples would argue otherwise), my employer was incredibly accommodating of my 3x/day pumping regimen, and my body produced enough milk to sustain my baby. These are three factors that fell so far outside my control, and it angers me when doctors, OBGYNs, healthcare professionals, and most importantly, other MOMS, fail to consider that when they preach to new moms about the benefits of nursing.

Yes, there is a long list of benefits. I get it. But you know what is also beneficial to baby? A mom who is not anxious, depressed, guilt ridden, in pain, and exhausted because she is either tied to a pump half the day or weeping alongside a crying baby who is starving but can't get food.

I recently read this great article from The Cut called Breastfeeding is for Overacheivers and there was this line that really resonated with me.
...Education and health-care decisions about birth are privileges, ones you’re more likely to have if you have money. Breastfeeding and breastfeeding’s accessories are not cheap, and women with higher-paying jobs are more likely to be accommodated for pumping than those without.
I am incredibly fortunate to have had the educational opportunities, the finances, and a supportive community that all played a role in my decision and ability to breastfeed. But I am fully aware that this is a great privilege that many women in this country do not have. And therefor, I NEVER preach.

But writing about, commenting, and liking articles like these on Facebook only do so much. It's time that we as mothers start speaking up about the benefit of choice, we stop bragging about breastfeeding, and we support one another in our feeding decisions, whether it be breast milk, formula, or a combination of both. 

Just no wine. I think we can all agree that feeding wine directly to babies is still frowned upon. But what do I know.

So who is with me?

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